The reason I write about these thoughts is because writing helps them live, there is so much going on inside my head makes it is impossible not to sit down and write.
These days I am a 24 hour locksmith, and the reason I am mentioning it is because I go to places. I meet incredible people. I witness friendship and drama and I live to tell the story.
There are many friendships out there, there are friends who hate each other. There are friends who help each other. There are friends who watch each other suffer and do nothing about it. There are friends who think of you as a good person and there are friends who misunderstand you and shape their opinion and just don’t bother. I believe that meeting new friends is hard, because you never know how to trust a person and the only tester of friendship is time.
Change of subject.
Making friends is not the topic here, Not losing them is..and I am not talking about those friends who call once in a blue moon and offer you their Herbalife products. I am talking about those friends who you are having a relationships with. Friends that have a part in your life and you wouldn't be the same without them. Those friends who you have encountered in your past all have a play in your personality. Somewhere.
So if you ask me how I see a friend, I see a person who helped me get better. I see someone who didn’t just ditch me but perhaps understood me. I believe real friends simply understand each other or at least try to. More I believe friends stick around. No matter what happens in the past friends come back.
I do, I don’t know maybe instinct. Feels natural to me to reach out to my old lost friends and call them. Ask them about their well being and what have changed. They were friends who you have most intimate relationships with, they know your problems and they are part of your daily life. Somewhere I wish I was perhaps more open with them or a better friend maybe I wouldn’t have lost them. I am sure all of you lost friends.
The past — a soup of your memories, experiences and feelings. Or just — you.“The past is the old you, the present is the future. Focus on it.” — Eli Abbasov I can express the past in many ways — war, trauma, love, hope, hate, jealousy, judgment, escape, belief, aim, progress and achievement. What have I achieved you ask, well you are reading this aren’t you.
If — you-are feeling like an underachiever every day, you would understand me.
I was never taught to think freely and I wasn’t mentally prepared for this world. But somewhere my inability to express myself opened my ears. So I learned also to listen and the person who taught me to listen was a friend of mine from the past. One of those friends I lost.
He always used to argue with me about everything and one day I just started arguing back and shouting and shortly I realized that I am doing it all wrong.
Somewhere I just accepted him as he is and didn’t argue with him anymore, I just listened and said “Yes Simon you are right” and after a while he was more interested in my opinion and we were able to communicate. But I was too late back then he grew cold on me eventually.
The Future! — “past+present=future”“The future has your name in it, you just need to write it” — Eli AbbasovDon’t wait till last moment, save your friendships now and be more direct so friends can understand your intentions better because you save yourself miscommunication that way. I believe that we all need that mental help to boost our survival skills by having a good company. So pick your company carefully and make sure you are appreciated. I never said that I gave up on getting my old friends back, it’s just there is right time and approach for everything. Chemistry is a very powerful tools when used correctly.
Until that day, I will just be here. Listening. Waiting for a sign. Just like a good cancer does.
Funny thing is sometimes I feel like some people don’t want to be my friends because I do 24 hour locksmith. For example one of my friends who I met while living London Ontario used to tell me all the time that he can’t come and visit because he is afraid that I will get a call and I will have to ditch him. I agree. No one likes to be ditched.
Care for your friend and do not judge him, your friends can be all you got sometimes. Try to save it while you can and the first step trying to encourage your friend to overcome his weaknesses. That is your key. Simply because we all have issues the only question is who helps us through them.
I am always here for your comments and your stories. I like to read personal stories and share experiences. Don’t be afraid to say what’s on your mind I don’t judge.
Eli Abbasov - I write about locksmith experiences and on-site security services. My stories are simple yet they contain a lot of thought.