If you recently had a problem with the front door of your business it was because of a known problem. You probably have worn out hinges, Hi I am Sally owner of Sally's Pizza best pizza in town. I got stuck with a problem last winter. Usually, my front doors work fine and people are happy to swing them passing in and out of the store. Some hungry for pizza, some deliver the pizza to the customers. Some even eat the pizza on their way out of the store as they push and swing the door open.
I learned my lesson through my mistakes, every time that the story goes on. I wake up to a new problem and some don't have solutions, but this problem was, in particular, very annoying. What it has to do with continuous hinges you ask? Well.
It was a very quiet morning on the second of January of the beginning of 2020, some people still sleep as 8 am approaches, some people rush their minds up to their targets, some just live to breathe and find all the little things they need to survive. But back to me, here I was in front of my store staring at was unfolding in front of me, you see I was exposed to things way too early in my life to my view. And because of my early exposure which I wasn't mature enough to handle I am definitely able to say I have made some mistakes. Mistakes which are a part of me, which sadly make me who I am.
So somethings aren't good to be discovered early, but nature is such that there is a paradox, so in the same world at the same time other rules of nature exist. Early exposure to certain information, can save you time, it might save your career, it might save your life. I wasn't aware of the fact that my hinges are rusty and they are so worn out that they can be snapped with significant ease. "They snapped them.." I thought.
I had a break-in, now it's time to figure it out, what I should have done in the first place. How I should have managed my life and time or maybe paying to much attention to the spiritual rather than the physical things which are around, like the problems which are waiting to be solved at the hands of a procrastinator? All of those things come to mind when you are robbed, it is only when bad things happen we are able to beat ourselves up and rethink the way we prepare ahead. But hear this, I am warning you this is a repetitive pattern only broken by passing the message on and on.
"Prepare better, install stronger hinges in fact maybe even continuous hinges." said the guy from the local lock company. I am always local, I make pizza for people, me and continuous hinges have more differences than locksmith and pizza but that day that locksmith was in fact lucky, he got a very nice slice of pizza and a pop too!
He spent extra time to educate me about the types of hinges and continuous hinges and how they work and carry heavy doors. Continuous hinges last long and carry heavier doors and all that information was among the words the locksmith guy was saying.. Very technical and complicated.
The burglars didn't take much, just my pride. My trust in people, but hey not all people. I don't trust thieves anymore, I know what you will say. I guess it has to happen to some, and they learn, not that robberies exist but they learn to be more resilient or prepared for next time, so I guess there needs to be the last time as well. Sad reality. We make it happy. Using knowledge, problem solving and trust. Those who don't carry that message will be out thanks to CCTV, continuous hinges and local locksmiths I trust to install them.
And, when I am done crying about the pains of life as I learn my lessons, what doesn't kill me, in fact, makes me more alive and stronger. Like continuous hinges, evolved over time to be strongest ever!"
The reason I write about these thoughts is because writing helps them live, there is so much going on inside my head makes it is impossible not to sit down and write.
These days I am a 24 hour locksmith, and the reason I am mentioning it is because I go to places. I meet incredible people. I witness friendship and drama and I live to tell the story.
There are many friendships out there, there are friends who hate each other. There are friends who help each other. There are friends who watch each other suffer and do nothing about it. There are friends who think of you as a good person and there are friends who misunderstand you and shape their opinion and just don’t bother. I believe that meeting new friends is hard, because you never know how to trust a person and the only tester of friendship is time.
Change of subject.
Making friends is not the topic here, Not losing them is..and I am not talking about those friends who call once in a blue moon and offer you their Herbalife products. I am talking about those friends who you are having a relationships with. Friends that have a part in your life and you wouldn't be the same without them. Those friends who you have encountered in your past all have a play in your personality. Somewhere.
So if you ask me how I see a friend, I see a person who helped me get better. I see someone who didn’t just ditch me but perhaps understood me. I believe real friends simply understand each other or at least try to. More I believe friends stick around. No matter what happens in the past friends come back.
I do, I don’t know maybe instinct. Feels natural to me to reach out to my old lost friends and call them. Ask them about their well being and what have changed. They were friends who you have most intimate relationships with, they know your problems and they are part of your daily life. Somewhere I wish I was perhaps more open with them or a better friend maybe I wouldn’t have lost them. I am sure all of you lost friends.
The past — a soup of your memories, experiences and feelings. Or just — you.“The past is the old you, the present is the future. Focus on it.” — Eli Abbasov I can express the past in many ways — war, trauma, love, hope, hate, jealousy, judgment, escape, belief, aim, progress and achievement. What have I achieved you ask, well you are reading this aren’t you.
If — you-are feeling like an underachiever every day, you would understand me.
I was never taught to think freely and I wasn’t mentally prepared for this world. But somewhere my inability to express myself opened my ears. So I learned also to listen and the person who taught me to listen was a friend of mine from the past. One of those friends I lost.
He always used to argue with me about everything and one day I just started arguing back and shouting and shortly I realized that I am doing it all wrong.
Somewhere I just accepted him as he is and didn’t argue with him anymore, I just listened and said “Yes Simon you are right” and after a while he was more interested in my opinion and we were able to communicate. But I was too late back then he grew cold on me eventually.
The Future! — “past+present=future”“The future has your name in it, you just need to write it” — Eli AbbasovDon’t wait till last moment, save your friendships now and be more direct so friends can understand your intentions better because you save yourself miscommunication that way. I believe that we all need that mental help to boost our survival skills by having a good company. So pick your company carefully and make sure you are appreciated. I never said that I gave up on getting my old friends back, it’s just there is right time and approach for everything. Chemistry is a very powerful tools when used correctly.
Until that day, I will just be here. Listening. Waiting for a sign. Just like a good cancer does.
Funny thing is sometimes I feel like some people don’t want to be my friends because I do 24 hour locksmith. For example one of my friends who I met while living London Ontario used to tell me all the time that he can’t come and visit because he is afraid that I will get a call and I will have to ditch him. I agree. No one likes to be ditched.
Care for your friend and do not judge him, your friends can be all you got sometimes. Try to save it while you can and the first step trying to encourage your friend to overcome his weaknesses. That is your key. Simply because we all have issues the only question is who helps us through them.
I am always here for your comments and your stories. I like to read personal stories and share experiences. Don’t be afraid to say what’s on your mind I don’t judge.
Eli Abbasov - I write about locksmith experiences and on-site security services. My stories are simple yet they contain a lot of thought.